I think you make good points but I look at it from another perspective. I have been flying IFR for 20 years. The first 5 years were with the Mooney wing leveler. I got really proficient at hand flying everything with nothing more than a couple of Nav radios and a portable GPS for situational awareness. At the end of a long flight, especially when I was in the clouds for long stretches, I would arrive at my destination tired, then faced with flying an approach. Throw in an occasional miss and flying to an alternate, it made for long days.
When I upgraded my wing leveler to a fully couple STEC, things changed. By letting George fly for a bit, I got better at checking for weather along my route and my workload went down dramatically, especially when briefing myself on an unfamiliar approach. I still hand flew a lot of approaches not trusting George completely. I slowly began letting George fly the approaches and I often found that he did a better job than I did.
Before I began my avionics upgrade I flew with owners who had different variations of what I was looking at (PFD/MFD) with GPSS. The decision to upgrade was easy after that (albeit the money side of it was never easy). Anything that helps stack the odds in my favor while doing single pilot IFR, is something I believe in. Now don't get me wrong on maintaining proficiency. I still hand fly a lot and will never completely trust electrons doing all of the work, all of the time.