I have overhauled a few lycomings myself since I have an A&P. If you are leaking at the case, you probably have fretting between the case halves. That will cause the cylinder nuts to lose torque. Not good. I tried and like nickel cylinders as they break in less than 45 minutes and will never pit. I have not tried the DLC plated lifters but sounds interesting. I would not waste the money on the rocker shafts as I have always just have aircraft specialties regrind them and had no problems. I guess it depends on how much money you want to spend but some of what you have talked about seems like overkill. Better to use the money for gas.
I think the most important thing that I have found is to :
1 Overhaul or replace all accessories.
2. Do a proper engine break in.
3. Use an engine dryer to prevent moisture on the camshaft as even in warm climates, the engine produces one gallon of water for every five gallons of gas burned. You want to keep that off of the steel parts. That will even kill an Arizona camshaft. I also use a Twin Hornet to keep the upper end warm to prevent condensation.
4. Fly often for at least a half hour to keep everything dry and lubed.
5. Keep your overhaul simple. Folks will sell you all kind of stuff to make money but remember you got well over 2000 hours on a standard engine.
Just my thoughts on it.