It's amazing to me that people have naturally discovered: full flaps aren't necessary. Approach/Take-off is just fine. (especially when flying an IFR approach, keeping them at APRCH setting is one less thing to worry about) ... then ... fly by the numbers. If your flaps have a minor asymetrical deployment, your AP can adjust it.
On a M20F, 2350 (bottom of green) and 100 on downwind, flaps, gear, 90 on base, 80 on final, 75 short final. (For winds, keep in some extra speed.) If you're ahead of the plane and flying a good traffic pattern, throttle will fine tune your descent to the runway environment. Field made? Reduce your power and flare before touchdown. MAINS FIRST ALWAYS (no 3 point landings!) ... when stall speed meets 0 altitude, the landin's soft and intentional.
I've landed N9378V on all types of fields... from 1950 feet (Reigle PA) to Washington-Dulles and Logan.
Crosswinds are the same thing, with the exception of choreographing the crosswind component. Don't let that change your pattern technique. (You might skip the 75 short final, though.)