Don, I bought the cable directly from Garmin. https://buy.garmin.com/shop/shop.do?pID=1083
I figured out the correct pin on the 430W installation manual or owners manual... I can't remember which but likely the installation manual. I think I have an electronic copy at home, or else I googled it at the time and printed out the pertinent content. It was just one pin IIRC that went to the 430W, and then I had to configure the 430W in the setup screens to enable "Aviation Out" as the format on Port Number XX, and similarly configure "Aviation In" on the 496. Note that you can only have one input going to the 496, so it can be flight plan data like I did, or else you could send traffic data from a -330 transpoder or Xaon device for example, but not both. I purchased the correct pin from Digikey too. I think the specs were in the Garmin manual so I could match it. Ring terminals on the power/ground cables allowed connection to an unused circuit breaker and ground. All in all it wasn't terribly difficult, except for the contortionist routine required to work behind a Mooney panel. I did it in less than an hour and my IA signed it off during an annual.